Forsaking All Others

When people get married they make a vow to forsake all others to commit to their partner. When someone has an affair, there usually comes a point when the one having the affair has to decide whether to stay in the marriage and commit to that decision or end the marriage and move on.

I have written elsewhere that I believe there are two main paradigms: cause/effect and causeless. Simply put, in the cause/effect paradigm, what I do in one moment has an effect on the next moment. In the causeless paradigm, every moment is new and different. Therefore, if I hurt myself at 2.00 pm, there's no reason why I should continue to feel the pain at 2. 01 pm as that is another moment. It is only when I project that moment to the next and the next that the pain continues to have a reality. If I don't want it to continue I can just say "That was then and this is now" or dismiss that moment as nothing.

The causeless paradigm gives me unlimited freedom to experience many different ways of being without effects; while the cause/effect binds me in time and space.

I feel like I've been straddling the two paradigms. Put another way, it's like I've been seeing two different guys and not willing to commit to either until that moment when I made the decision that I am ready to commit to one guy and explore our relationship forever and ever; or as long as the dream lasts. It doesn't mean this paradigm is the right way, I simply choose to focus on experiencing life through this model of reality.

This blog "It is All Nothing" is an opportunity to explore the Causeless paradigm where I'm focusing on all the Good there is in every moment. In the Causeless paradigm of Infinite Self, every moment is new and doesn't have to affect any other moments unless I choose it to be the case.

It's now official. I have forsaken the other model of reality and I am being faithful to the Causeless as long as I choose to explore it.

We are now husband and wife.

Enocia

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